Introduction
- Not every problem is a discipline problem; some problems are personal.
- Problems develop when a situation deviates from God’s will.
- Most problems involve improper actions, words, thoughts, and attitudes.
General Principles
- Every problem has a solution.
- Youth problems are usually an extension of home problems.
- Don’t ever expect teenagers to act like adults. They’re not adults; they’re teens.
- Teenagers are in the process of developing their Christian character.
- The Bible teaches individual responsibility for personal action no matter what the circumstances and how many others are involved.
- The Bible teaches the general principle of judgment for sin and reward for obedience.
- Don’t allow problems to get by just because “everyone’s doing it.”
- Remember your many-sided responsibility.
- To the individual
- To God
- To his parents
- To the church
- To the whole group
- To Ironwood
- Remember that man is basically sinful.
- Continued behavioral problems reveal a deeper personal problem.
- Teenagers push against authority to see how far they can go. They want to find a firm authority and boundary.
- Organize to avoid problems.
- Separate the offense from the offender. Love the offender.
- Determine whether or not the problem was the result of rebellion, thoughtlessness, or carelessness.
Proper Action and Attitudes
- Pray first. Ask the Lord for wisdom and discernment.
- No action should be taken before all information from all sides is gathered.
- Never take one person’s word against another’s. Get a confession.
- Deal hardest with acts of disobedience, rather than thoughtlessness and poor judgment.
- Make the person look at you while you talk.
- Don’t get mad or excited.
- Don’t make hasty decisions, but don’t delay when a decision is needed.
- In a multitude of counselors, there is safety. When appropriate, use a committee; personal counseling should be personal.
- The punishment should be swift, definite, and appropriate.
- From the Bible, show them God’s opinion of the his action.
- True repentance is evidenced by restitution and confession to all injured parties.
- Don’t bring it up to the camper again, but think, “What can I do or change so this won’t happen again?”